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I Hate Being Latina– Hispanic Heritage Month

I hate being latina

During the summer, I wrote a piece on the new Disney Princess Elena of Avalor and how elated I was that Disney had finally put Latinos on the map as one of the “elite.” I was proud that my daughter, although only half Latina, would have someone to look up to. I took to Instagram and spoke about how much I hated being Latina (Peruvian) when I was younger and many related to my story.

So, yes I hated being Latina– the music was obnoxious, the dancing didn’t make sense, the food– okay it was gooooood, but strange and the language? Well, I didn’t know what anything meant in English or how to say things in English since my parents only spoke Spanish and attempted to speak broken-English. Therefore, relating to kids in my school made it difficult. The kids that were Latino spoke perfect English and were Americanized so they didn’t feel ostracized as I did. I remember this one time when I had a friend from school come over my house– it was the worst experience of my life. My mom couldn’t speak to the girl, it probably smelled of delicious ethnic food and it just became awkward where she ended up crying wanting to go home. We never spoke again. I was an outsider and it felt terrible. I struggled with this all throughout elementary school and when middle-school and high-school hit it did ease down a bit, but I still felt that shame of who I was.

In celebration of Hispanic Heritage Month I figured I’d share my pride of now being a Latina, more specifically, Peruvian. Yes, I was born here in America, but still will always say I’m Peruvian. Hiding who I was all those years built more insecurities and eventually led to self-hate, depression and all of that gist– things I still try to overcome today. Being Latina then was hard. There was no one to look up to that I could relate to. No one, but the other “ESL” kids knew what I went through. Yes, I was in ESL because they said I needed to be since my mom and dad spoke only Spanish and there was a language barrier. It wasn’t until I escaped the close-knit community of Long Island and went to John Jay College, that I was amongst “MY PEOPLE.” Finally, people who spoke my language– kind of and ate what I ate– kind of. It felt amazing. I felt a sense of pride being around them and although they were Dominican and I was Peruvian, I was still around my Latinos– who danced to the crazy music, ate strange food and yelled when talking to one another.

I make sure my kids know both sides, although we don’t know much of my spouses Irish side we do celebrate their food and culture when we can. Since I do know my culture I make sure they’re around it as much as possible– visiting their grandparents, speaking to them in Spanish, showing them how to dance to Latin dances, surrounding them with the music. It’s not only about loving the culture, but loving who you are. One thing I always do is try to have Ziana say something positive about herself and how no ones negative opinions about herself should matter. Self-love guys!

My point of telling you all this is that being ashamed of who you are is one of the worst things you could do to yourself. It’s dangerous. I never want Ziana or Gunner to be ashamed of their family, heritage or background. I want them to celebrate the Latino side and celebrate the Irish side just as much. I want them to love themselves because if they don’t love themselves, no one else will– a parents love can only go so far.


What’s something you love about yourself or your culture?

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11 Comments

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    Ileana
    Apr 6, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    I can totally relate to your story, I’m Peruvian as well, and always wanted to be someone else. Today I’m a proud Latina, I might not know much about Peru but I know one thing- Arriba con la Blanca y roja ??

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      Betsy
      Apr 10, 2017 at 12:05 am

      lol! OMG, I love that yes girl white and red šŸ™‚

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    willie
    Oct 15, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Beutiflly said

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      Betsy
      Oct 17, 2016 at 10:35 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    willie
    Oct 15, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    Understand you perfectly, but in the positive side your family was always there trying to make it good and comfortable for you, I dont know you but I imagine that was the case. Unlike perhaps other latinos that do not have that commodity like both parents to back them up.. congrats in overcoming the phase…

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      Betsy
      Oct 17, 2016 at 10:35 pm

      Yes, for the most part šŸ™‚ Glad I did too !!

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    Anastasia Nicole
    Oct 12, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    Love this post so much! While I am not Latino, I do understand not being proud of who you are and your heritage. (Growing up as a black woman in America I had to learn to embrace my hair, my curves, and everything else about me that was deemed as less than by mainstream culture.) And that last line about loving yourself is everything! Keep doing you and loving those adorable babies of yours. Happy Hispanic Heritage Month!

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      Betsy
      Oct 13, 2016 at 12:32 am

      Thank you for reading!! Yes, it’s not just about being Latina– we all unfortunately struggle with it. While some run with it and love themselves, others struggle with it and it’s important to self-love <3

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    jerseyfashionista
    Oct 12, 2016 at 1:56 pm

    great post Betsy! And adorable pic <3
    Happy Hispanic Heritage Month xo

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      Betsy
      Oct 12, 2016 at 2:17 pm

      Aw gracias!!! <3

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      Betsy
      Oct 12, 2016 at 2:18 pm

      Aw! Gracias!!!

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