We all know what timeouts are; we’ve been on them or are practicing this now with our children. Timeouts are to give that child some time to think about what they did, calm down and reflex on their actions, it’s even a break for you as a parent, but what about having timeouts in a relationship? Do you put your partner in a time out?
I’ve never called not talking to my boyfriend or walking away from him a “timeout,” but that’s essentially what it is and I’m going to start calling it as such. Imagine going to your partner and saying “I’m going on a timeout from you because I can’t stand your existence!” It’s quite humorous and might even change the whole course of the fight.
Now in all honesty we all have those fights where before it exacerbates it’s best to walk away from the argument in order to get your head cooled off. Better said then done, right? When we fight we are so passionate about our sides that we get lost at what the whole reasoning behind our fight was. We go into saying things we shouldn’t say and bring things up that have absolutely nothing to do with the topic. Happens to us all the time. My boyfriend took “timeouts” all the time, he’d go take a walk and then come back inside with a leveled head– not anymore. I use to hate him walking out because I like to resolve the issue right that minute. And although I can easily get over things quickly men don’t.
When your partner isn’t ready to talk about it he’s just not ready and it’s best for you both to go to your corners, of course pick the corner that has the bed and tv and easy access to the kitchen. Again, that’s easier said then done. My boyfriend knows when I’m mad because I give him no acknowledgement what-so-ever and he becomes a ghost. You know us women are very good at that. Now when he’s mad? He will do just about the same– give me the silent treatment and be very short in his responses. NOT OKAY WITH ME! You will not treat me like crap as I treat you! Haha.. it’s funny how we can give it to our men, but when the tables are turned it goes to a completely different level of hell.
It’s so easy for us to ignore their calls or texts, but so help them if try to turn the tables and do it to us. I will be the one to call over and over, send text after text and maybe drive up to his job! I’m just a tad crazy– he knew it beforehand. I see timeouts only working when we want it, everyone’s just better off like that! Wouldn’t you agree?
Have you ever gone or put someone on timeout?