I too once believed in that love at first sight the one let’s get married, start a family and own a home with a white picket fence dream, but not too much anymore. Decades ago a first date would lead to marriage within months, weeks and even days later. It was beautiful that two people were so confident in “love” that they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together and knew it was right. Nowadays, people go on “dates” to get lucky and to add to their list of “accomplishments.”
All marriage really is a legal government contract stating you are now ONE. Why do you need that piece of paper to prove that? My views are exactly like Owen’s on “Drop Dead Diva.” When you’re not married there doesn’t have to be an ugly divorce of who gets what and don’t forget all the money your going to waste on attorneys. You can simply just pack up your things and leave you leave with what you came with. Yes, I know there are still legal rights people have in a non-married relationship, but less sticky.
After Owen’s POV on marriage, his girlfriend Jane replied with her POV and it made sense. Jane states that the ‘piece of paper makes you look back at why you got married and try to work on it.’ I loved that answer! Yet still have my doubts. I believe and Owen said it best, ‘that piece of paper makes a couple stay together even when they don’t want to.’ Take a look at the two minute video of Jane and Owen discussing it:
Owen and Jane's View on Marriage **By the way, this is a must watch show on Lifetime Sundays**
It’s definitely not rare to see unmarried couples raising children anymore. People always want to say that they go to more baby-showers than weddings. Once a upon a time it was frowned on and still is depending on the person. Now that I have a baby people always ask when I’m getting married and my reply is always “never.” Of course a part of me wants to get married, but I am deathly scared of it. By the way, don’t think I would say no if he proposed! I believe in a LONG engagement if anything, lol. I always tell him I want the party and the gifts! That’s probably the real reason people get married! The money, gifts and the secretly conceited moment of you being the center of attention just joking!
Right now you can be in love and in the next day, month or 10 years from now you can fall out of love. Why would you want to be in that marriage? Loving and being IN love is very different. I like to think of myself as a realist and not live in my childhood fantasy. Maybe I’m just pointing out all the negatives so I can keep myself from having high expectations and not feel depressed if it doesn’t happen. I really don’t want to grow up to be the old lonely woman living in her home with all her ‘dogs,’ yes dogs, not cats. Who knows? Psycho-analyze that now!
Thoughts? And I’m sure I’ll probably bite myself in the butt with this post when I get married 😉