Some of you may not know, but I was a HUGE Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake fan– yeah a fan of their relationship, haha. On Super Bowl Sunday after the performance with Jay-Z at the DirecTV party Justin said something that seemed to be a diss to the Queen of pop, “Sometimes in life, you think you found the one, but then one day you find out that she is just some b***h.”
Where was the diss? Well after those beautiful words he played “Cry Me A River,” which we all know was about Britney after their breakup years ago. Justin vehemently denies that he did not direct that to anyone especially his first true love Britney. In fact he went to Twitter and said, “Ok. I see you. Wouldn’t disrespect ANYONE personally. Ever. #Relax #ItsBritneyBitch I do love that saying though*with accent* #Respect.”
Now I don’t believe he directed that to Britney it’s just a mere coincidence that he played that song after that statement, right? The question at hand is would you ever publicly diss an ex? Is it right?
I’m the first to admit that it feels pretty good to diss an ex it usually brings closure faster, but publicly where it’s telling his darkest secrets or to tell lies to make them seem horrible? I don’t think so.
Whatever you say about them might bring their character into question, but it also brings your character into question x10.
I for one have never bad mouthed an ex on any social media– at least not by name. Saying things like he’s bad in bed, he’s a cheater, he takes a shower once a week or wears the same underwear for weeks on end and such shows that you’re still bitter over the break-up and still yearn for them. Now is that really something you want people to know or think? No! So stop doing it. You don’t want the general public knowing your vulnerable keep that for your friends and family only.
This is especially important when you have kids with the person. No child wants to hear one parent talk badly about the other parent. Why would they? You’re talking about someone they love even though you may be telling the truth or lying about them being a dead-beat parent, drug addict, cheater and so on they don’t care about that. When their young they may agree with you and start to feel the same way you do because if you say it, it must be true, but when they get older and see what a psycho you really are they’ll grow up to resent you for keeping their daddy/mommy away from them. On top of that what are you teaching your child?
Talking badly about an ex doesn’t help anyone so why do it? To make you feel good about yourself because you have nothing else to feel good about? Pathetic. Move on and let it go!