When you have a kid they’re your prized possession– nothing can ever get in the way of a mother and her child. You have your perfect little family where daddy is involved and the future looks bright. UNTIL, until one day you guys decide to break-up or divorce.
The break-up may be amicable between the two of you, but what happens when they new girlfriend or boyfriend steps in and takes over the mommy- daddy role?
It can happen for the daddy or the mommy, but I’m going to speak more on the “step-mom” side of things. What got me thinking about such an interesting topic was the war between LeAnn Rimes and her husbands ex-Brandi Glanville. Long story short if you’re not familiar– LeAnn and her now husband Eddie Cibrian had an affair while married to other people. Scandalous, yet not rare in today’s society, but what keeps this war between both women going is LeAnn’s mouth where she continuously claims her step kids as hers, or her boys, her everything.
Let’s take a moment…. Breathe ladies, breathe.
USMagazine reported that a twitter follower tweeted Rimes and said, “I’m not meaning this in a mean way. Do you think a bit of the hate would dwindle, if you were to not mention the kids so much?”
Rimes replied with, “No! They are my life Eddie and my life revolve around them I will not edit myself because of anyone else’s childishness.”
Breathe again ladies.
I’ve always been a LeAnn fan and even though LeAnn and Eddie got together in such a disgusting way I always sided with LeAnn. I was just always annoyed with Brandi not leaving it alone. Until, LeAnn replied with that comment and it really opened up my eyes.
LeAnn you may be the step-“mom” but you are not the mom under no circumstances. The children have a beautiful, healthy mother who is in their lives and they don’t need a woman as delusional as you to make it seem like you’re the mom and better than their own mother.
If I were to part with my partner I would absolutely want him to find a woman who would love my child, take care of them and communicate with me, but not to be disrespectful claiming my child as yours or celebrating Mother’s Day as if you’ve gone through every moment with them since birth. Unless I’m dead who gave you such rights?
And since I’m speaking truthfully, Eddie Cibrian has to show some respect too. Be a man and put her in her place! What if the tables were turned? Oh wait, they can’t be because Brandi isn’t dating anyone serious because you’ve probably scarred her enough not to trust a man. You can imagine how you’d feel though, right? You’re an actor–
No one cares LeAnn! If you feel such ways about your boys keep it to yourself. You’re just putting yourself in a bad light and are causing stress and unneeded commotion into your life.
Now, if you’re a step-mom reading this and are always shoving things in the mother’s face go slap yourself across the face!
#1 step momJan 31, 2019 at 8:18 am
Whereas i this situation, she is overbearing. But in my situation, the mother has two other young children, and 3 step children (altho not legally as they are not married). My step son i better off in our home. I, as the step mother, handle school, sports, extra curriculars, etc. I feel i can be overbearing, sure, but, this child would not have these opportunities if he didnt have me. She doesnt give me an hassle and sometimes i feel shes thankful for it that someone is handling one of her 6 kids… i could be wrong. Ive never really asked.. BUT, i really dont care. Ive been with him since 8 months old.. sooo
BetsyApr 9, 2019 at 9:52 pm
That’s nice. There’s a way to handle things and seems like you’re doing it great!
Jenni erased momMar 10, 2018 at 9:55 pm
Woohoo! Spoken like a true SANE person! My kids dad seems to have the same mistress turned wife, pregnant while I wad married to him although she was not married, no she had to wait for that perfect man, a married one with 3 kids who was detaching while in IRAQ supposed to be fighting for our country not making babies with other soldiers. But that is not the half of it. 8 years after divorce she finally convinced my 3 daughters that SHE was their mother who was always there for them ???? She started seeing them every other weekend when they were 3, 6 and 7. She missed alot. And every other weekend was his choice but plenty of time for her to dye their hair wild colors every time, and get my 12 year old a naval piercing, but my oldest actually demonizes me for being the last one to find out when she lost her virginity at 14 because she knew I would be disappointed and all her “real mom” said was ” did you use protection?” Are you kidding me? None of this seems real still and she stole them 4 years ago. Hasnt allowed me to see them because I would make them feel uncomfortable for choosing them. Well, that was the initial reason, but my younger 2 asked to see me and their dad went ballistic. He said the would be wasting all the money he paid his crooked lawyer to take them away. No respect for the mother of his children, and the one who raised them, their only real parent, and my girls dont want to loose him still and cut off contact. Mostly all due to the delusional step mom who had told my children she is their mom from the start. She gets all over their FB posts and says things like “well of course I know, I am her mom!”
Or give her a high five in the face with a chair, whichever is easier.
LinaJun 28, 2014 at 9:33 am
I totally agree With you Betsy, as a mother, this situation hurts me deeply on Brandis behalf.. And I was no fan of her. But being left and treated the way she has by ex and LR etc and NOT loose mind or have anxiety issues world be..not human. IT takes a fool to remain sane. There is nothing like a mothers feelings! Strongest on earth!
BetsyJul 7, 2014 at 10:26 am
Exactly! The issue has nothing to do with them personally it’s the situation at whole. I’d die–
GloriaJun 8, 2014 at 10:41 am
Belinda? Leann wrote an entire record around the affair, and taught it to Brandi’s kids. She admits to calling the paps to take pictures of her stepkids. She began a reality show wherein she discussed Brandi at length. She has give countless interviews for YEARS. She has repeatedly slammed her on social media. And I wouldn’t want a stepparent who refused to accept any boundaries and did exactly as s/he pleased with my kids. She put her stepkid on a bike without a helmet on a public road and took off the training wheels and told him, “GO FASTER!” just so she could be the one to “teach” him to ride without training wheels and then made sure she rubbed it in by posting it online. Not to mention instead of running alongside him, she was too busy videoing it. These are not her kids; she is more like an aunt. But I think she will be in serious shock as the boys get older; it’s already happening. Step OFF, Leann. This is why you’re so hated. Nice writing, Betsy.
BetsyJun 10, 2014 at 2:05 pm
Wow. I didn’t even know all that smh. The kids will one day hate her and if they don’t now Brandi has been the adult in not trashing her.
ShannonJun 7, 2014 at 8:59 am
Sorry Belinda, Betsy is right 100%. I have three kids and have dealt with controlling, over bearing step moms who want to replace me. I noticed you said “if I had kids”, not to be mean but since you don’t have kids I think you need to walk the walk before you’re able to talk about such a sensitive and very personal issues. Issues that would require one being a mother to know what it’s like being in those very shoes.
TammyJun 6, 2014 at 8:02 pm
Leann is insane! She’s so obsessed with Brandi, she doesn’t see how she tells on herself. No decent woman acts or speaks like that.
BetsyJun 10, 2014 at 2:02 pm
JoAnnJun 6, 2014 at 2:24 pm
The underlying issue, in my opinion, is this was not an amicable divorce. Brandi was blind sided. It appears she was very happy and content being a wife and mother. Then, boom.
All of a sudden you have your kids half time. I imagine that’s the worst feeling in the world…until the ex remarries. First she takes Brandi’s husband then tries to make her kids her own. I believe that’s an unbearable pain.
Leann needs to build her own life and stop trying to live Brandi’s.
BetsyJun 10, 2014 at 2:01 pm
Yes, but the whole issue is a step-mother needs to know her boundaries!
mama44Jun 10, 2014 at 2:21 pm
I cannot ever begin to imagine having you’re life turned upside down…you go from being a stay at home mom, cooking,.cleaning etc etc, then you have you’re kids parttime….I’m sorry but Leanns taughting & throwing it in Bs face every chance she gets is BS..IF I were B, Leann would have NO TEETH!!!!! JS
BetsyJun 11, 2014 at 12:29 am
Yeah that’s no unfair part and many people just don’t get it smh
Bonnie RobisonJun 6, 2014 at 10:06 am
This is so true. My daughter is dealing with the same issues. These step moms /girlfriends do it to hurt the bio mothers. Its wrong. Her and Eddie should have their OWN children
BetsyJun 6, 2014 at 12:40 pm
Yes and she is causing her own drama. I would love to be a big family, and although they got together the way they did that could’ve been possible, but not now after all this.
HarleyloverJun 6, 2014 at 3:26 am
This article is SPOT ON, but this is Leann we are talking about & this woman knows NO BOUNDARIES so Really she is probably just laughing at you!! P.S. I was a fan way back when but after seeing her trash talk Brandi, I’m NO longer a fan.
BetsyJun 6, 2014 at 12:42 pm
Most definitely she is. You should see her twitter reply to me smh
tsvetoliushJun 6, 2014 at 3:21 am
BelindaJun 6, 2014 at 2:07 am
Sorry but Brandi does NOT dictate her life and neither do you. She can call those boys whatever she wants. Unfortunately for you, you eat right into Brandi’s ”woe is me, woman scorned” facade. And you fell right into her trap. If I had kids and my husband and I would divorce, I would grateful they weren’t in the hands of a mean, controlling wicked person who became their stepmom who wants them to go away or abuses them physically/mentally or verbally. While I would never be best buds or chummy with the ”other woman” but I would refrain from childish twitter feuds, airing my dirty laundry and slamming my ex in order to make money and gain sympathy in books. If she is such a strong, classy woman, let’s see it. So far, all I’ve seen is a petty, bitter, and vindictive party girl.
BetsyJun 6, 2014 at 12:44 pm
That’s your view on things, but I wasn’t talking about what Brandi said or did. These words came straight from LeAnn’s mouth. She takes possession over them and that is not right.
Jenni erased momMar 10, 2018 at 10:01 pm
Exactly, you dont have kids so you dont know what hard work and dedication it takes and how the MOM badge of honor belongs to only ONE person, and you dont know, Leanne may very well be demonizing their mother to them, she may be trying to get her out of the picture and willing to do anything the kids ask to do so. But that is utter disrespect to claim someone elses children that came out of their body and theif blood sweat and tears as your own. It is sad because I liked her before, but it actually lets me know there is at least one woman as psychotic and delusional as my kids stepmom.