Ah, weddings– a beautiful day to enjoy yourself around a couple who have decided to live in each others hell for the rest of their lives. Quite magical if you ask me 🙂
Free party, free food, free DJ to play your favorite hits, life can’t get any better! Then you think about it and it’s not free at all! You had to buy a bridal gift, splurge a bit on a bachlor/ette party (if you’re invited), outfit for the wedding, then lastly, a wedding gift. So all in all you paid your dues to get a seat at the wedding – shoot even three, haha.
From what I’ve read online is that many people stress over weddings, but I never did. I always wore a dress that I had scrunched up all the way in back of my closet which was usually never worn and never paid too much on bridal-shower gifts so I had more to spend on the wedding gift.
However, women are very different from men. Although we have dresses, gowns and shoes for any occasion men usually never do. And shopping for a man is worse than shopping for us, because let’s face it we’re not shopping for ourselves!
I never realized that suits are expensive! Even when you get a good deal on a suit you have to get it fitted and that cost a pretty penny–or two. Then comes deciding on a tie or bowtie, vest or jacket, what kind of shoes, what color shirt, belt, cufflinks and who knows what else I missed. Cha-Ching, cha-Ching, and more cha-Ching.
So after all the costs of the bridal shower gift, new suit and perhaps an outfit for yourself comes the wedding gift. What do you get!? How much do you spend?
I read an interesting article on HuffPost where they posted up a feud among a guest and the two brides of the wedding. It was a feud so bad that it made it to the newspaper! The issue surrounded the wedding gift the couple was given– a food basket! I’m all for making your own gifts or not spending too much, but a food basket consisting of pasta, balsamic vinegar, salsa, marshmallows and sour patches is BEYOND inappropriate.
The couple stated to the guest, “she lost out on $200 covering her and her guest.” Rude much? Although the basket gift was not tasteful neither was the couple nudging at the fact that they had to pay for their seats at the wedding.
I usually give money to not stress much on buying a gift, but that’s me. Many people don’t have those funds to give money because let’s face it you’re not going to put down only $50. Yet, no way, no how should one feel obligated to pay for their plate which is usually a $100 a person.
Also, the amount you give depends on who the person is and how close you are to that person. Clearly! I wouldn’t give someone whose an acquaintance with more than $100 or even $100. A friend, well depends how close of a friend they are. Family member? We don’t always get along, but that too depends on how close you are to them.
After all the money that’s been thrown around, woes of what to buy, comes the big day! And even as a guest you have a job!
When I host a party I’m always worried that someone won’t be enjoying themselves, so I can only imagine how a bride and groom must feel when they see people looking bored.
If you aren’t by any chance having a great time you better act like you’re having the time of your life.
Don’t get intoxicated to the point that you take away from the bride and grooms attention.
Get your flat butt off that chair and move it to the dancing floor.
Don’t hook up with more than one person because you don’t want to be known as the party’s floozie.
And lastly, fighting or bickering is not at all expected!
Hopefully, this helped you in some way! Have fun, spend carefully and don’t drink and drive 🙂